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Givers and takers

mheredgemheredge Posts: 40,437 ✭✭✭✭
Are you a giver or taker? Or are you a matcher?

This is a very interesting TED talk that analyses givers and takers in organisations.

Are you a giver or a taker? Or are you a 'matcher'?

On Friday 11 October at 8am we will be discussing this TED talk. Please try to watch the talk before as this will give you a better understanding of the ideas that we will be talking about.



(For the transcript: https://www.ted.com/talks/adam_grant_are_you_a_giver_or_a_taker)

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  • mheredgemheredge Posts: 40,437 ✭✭✭✭
    I like particularly the five minute giving that he mentions. Do you find people who are good at this? Networking often can be useful in this. Chatting with people who can help, even if it is just in passing some information.

    Have you come across takers? Or do you tend to give only when you think you will receive something back in return?
  • mheredgemheredge Posts: 40,437 ✭✭✭✭
  • GemmaRowlandsGemmaRowlands Moderator Posts: 10,331 mod
    I am definitely a giver, and I always have been. I feel that I probably often lose out because of this, though I am liked because of it.
  • mheredgemheredge Posts: 40,437 ✭✭✭✭
    I am a giver, and never expect anything in return. I think a lot of people give but at the same time expect the favour returned at some point. ' I owe you one' is a common response to someone giving help.
  • GemmaRowlandsGemmaRowlands Moderator Posts: 10,331 mod
    Yes I always feel like I owe people something if they do something nice for me, but deep down I know that's not really how it works.
  • taghriedtaghried Posts: 153 ✭✭✭
    edited October 10
    I guess there is no absolute giver. maybe you give to satisfy something inside you like you need to feel in peace or feel you are a good person. And in this case, this person is a matcher!
  • VokVok Posts: 1,523 ✭✭✭✭
    I don't like to be a giver or taker because I don't like to feel obliged to reciprocate and I don't like to make people feel the same way towards me either .
  • mheredgemheredge Posts: 40,437 ✭✭✭✭
    Altruism is when you give unconditionally, without expecting anything back. I find that this is by far the best form of giving.
  • GemmaRowlandsGemmaRowlands Moderator Posts: 10,331 mod
    Vok said:

    I don't like to be a giver or taker because I don't like to feel obliged to reciprocate and I don't like to make people feel the same way towards me either .

    I agree with this, but I think that the art of reciprocation is very deeply ingrained in many people.
  • mheredgemheredge Posts: 40,437 ✭✭✭✭
    I like helping people. I don't expect anything in return as I have already been rewarded by the feeling that I have helped. I do however, find it difficult to ask for help.
  • VokVok Posts: 1,523 ✭✭✭✭
    It's very sweet of you @mheredge .
  • mheredgemheredge Posts: 40,437 ✭✭✭✭
    I get very embarrassed when people want to thank me @Vok. I hate the fuss.
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