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Monday Night Owls - 14 October 2019 - Couples who treat their pets like children

NatashaTNatashaT Posts: 1,172 Teacher
We read an article about a trend which is increasing - couples who choose to have pets instead of children:

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20190826-the-child-free-couples-who-treat-their-pets-like-children


Vocabulary Top 10:

lap - the area between the knees and the hips of a person who is sitting down

staunchly - very devoted or loyal to a person, belief, or cause

vocal - expressing opinions in a public and forceful way

redefining - defining again or differently

get into - to become involved in (an activity)

confide - to tell (something that is secret or private) to someone you trust

debunk - to show that something (such as a belief or theory) is not true : to show the falseness of (a story, idea, statement, etc.)

contentious - likely to cause people to argue or disagree

turn the corner - to get past the most difficult area or period in something and begin to improve

toll - a serious, bad effect on someone or something; harm or damage


Is this trend happening in your country?
Why do you think couples are deciding to have pets instead of children?

@taghried @Manar @Shiny03 @Monik @VictorJosé @Diakha @aza @MarkRavenhoodie

Comments

  • VictorJoséVictorJosé Posts: 54 ✭✭
    Nowadays it's commonly seeing the child-free couples here in Brazil, more than this, we´ve seen a lot of couples turn around their pets in the shopping mall and parks.
    Firstly, I´d like to think that children are blessed by the Lord to us and they are the biggest responsibility of the couple.
    I understand we must respect the opinions and it is a contentious topic, but if you just worry about what kind of World we will be left to them, or if we will enough money to pay their studies, or if we will be here to educate and to protect them ever, whatever if you think a lot more than feeling, more than listening to your heart... You won´t have children.
    In spite of it is perfectly possible to maintain a family composed of both pets and children, by the way, both of then have a lot of love to give you and give each other.
  • filauziofilauzio Genoa ( Italy )Posts: 2,027 ✭✭✭✭✭
    It does hurt me to say it, really, but I have to give vent to my frustration, which got exacerbated while reading the article, once and for all.

    Keeping pets as children has simply to do with insanity.

    There's no excuse to put forth, to give reason for it, be it financial, or ethical, or emotional, not at all; you just have to admit it, you've got a mental impairment.

    You pretend you don't have enough money to grow a child: ok.

    Unfortunately, though, you care of your dog or cat much more than you'd do with a child: you pamper and treat them to whatever luxurious items and treatments the artful pet industry has come up with.

    You have got even the opportunity to buy pet cosmetics, other than warm coats and waterproof jackets purposely supplied to meet all needs of our furry babies.

    What about the pets' health spa ? Ugh.. yes my friends, they provide it too: you can walk your dog there to have a relaxing bath and sauna, followed by a complete massage.

    You don't want your furry child to skip the face-mask, do you ? Here you are, it's included in the all-inclusive beauty treatment package... sigh.

    You pretend you have ethical reasons too, not to rise a child: the world is already too overcrowded so as not to need a further unasked-for child of your own: ok.

    Then, you don't limit yourself to the indeed ethical action of picking up your dog among the lonely, suffering, caged ones which fill the municipal kennels.

    Those are the would-be pets which pass day after day whining desperate for a family and a loving, caring, selfless owner.

    However, you would rather search for a cute puppy, which would turn out the most photogenic in your selfies too.

    This way you encourage the thriving breeding industry of just the exclusive dogs' breeds of choice, which, possibly, can be different with the diverse inclinations and preferences of any enthusiastic pets' parents.

    It can be you would avoid overcrowding the planet with children, this way, but you'll most likely replace them with a like number of four-legged ones.

    Finally, you pretend having a child is too emotionally involving a task, not worth it and likely to prevent you from pursuing either a successful career or enjoyable holidays.

    Ok, I can understand the point.

    Nevertheless, I seem to spot people walking their dogs at any hours of the day and the night, whatever the weather overhead, a plastic bottle of water in one hand ( to wash off or dilute the pee ), the leash end in the other, the waste-bags at their waist belt.

    But yes, you're still right: that isn't an emotional involvement, not really so, it's rather going deep into a stubborn enslavement.

    The problem, in my opinion, is that people who want to be parents to a pet rather than to a child, suffer from an impairment to love.

    They just need an unconditional love, the kind which just a pet can guarantee to them, whether you return it to them or not, according to your whims and engagement's level you choose to put into it.

    The love among humans, I'm afraid, is a completely different kind of: to be mutual, it needs constant involvement from both sides, sacrifice, the ability to abstract completely from yourself to devote entirely to others... not just the time or so of a dog's walk.

    It's a huge task, I'm aware: that's why you can feel much more comfortable buying your own furry, reassuringly undemanding, relievingly tail-wagging one.


    glad to stop strict diet, splashed in belly flop? Don't care you're not light, here on English hop !
  • TeachTeach Your Teacher HomePosts: 10,430 mod
    @VictorJosé - Here is your correction:-

    Nowadays it's common to see child-free couples here in Brazil, more than this, you can see a lot more couples turn around walking their pets in the shopping malls and parks.

    Firstly, I´d like to think that children are a blessing to us, after all they are the biggest responsibility for any couple. I understand we must respect the opinions of others, and it is a contentious topic. The fact is, if you only worry about what kind of world we will leave to them, whether we will have enough money to pay for their studies, or if we will be here to educate and to protect them forever. If you think more than feel: more than listening to your heart... you won´t have children.

    In spite of that, it is perfectly possible to maintain a family composed of pets and children. Both of them have a lot of love to give you and each other.
  • TeachTeach Your Teacher HomePosts: 10,430 mod
    @filauzio - Here is your correction:-

    It hurts me to say it, really, but I have to give vent to my frustration, which was exacerbated while reading the article.

    Keeping pets as children is simply insane.

    There's no excuse for it, be it financial, or ethical, or emotional, none at all; you just have to admit it, you've got a mental impediment.

    You pretend you don't have enough money to raise a child: ok.

    Unfortunately, though, you care for your dog or cat much more than you would a child: you pamper and treat them to whatever luxurious items and treatments the artful pet industry has come up with: you even have the opportunity to buy pet cosmetics, warm coats and waterproof jackets purposely supplied to meet all the needs of our furry babies.

    What about pet health spas? Ugh.. yes my friends, they provide that too: you can walk your dog there to have a relaxing bath and sauna, followed by a full massage.

    You don't want your furry child to skip the face-mask, do you ? Here you are, it's included in the all-inclusive beauty treatment package... sigh.

    You pretend you have ethical reasons, not to raise a child: the world is already too overcrowded, so there is no need for any further unasked-for children of your own: ok.

    Then, why don't you limit yourself to the more ethical action of picking your dog among the lonely, suffering, caged ones which fill the municipal kennels.

    Those are the would-be pets which pass day after day whining desperate for a family and a loving, caring, selfless owner. However, you seem to prefer searching for a cute puppy, which will be the most photogenic in your selfies too.

    The way you encourage the thriving breeding industry for just the exclusive dog breed of choice, which, possibly, can be different with the diverse inclinations and preferences of any enthusiastic pet parents.

    It could be that you want to avoid overcrowding the planet with children this way, but you'll most likely replace them with a like number of four-legged ones.

    Finally, you pretend having a child is too emotionally involving a task, not worth it and likely to prevent you from pursuing either a successful career or enjoyable holidays.

    Ok, I can understand the point.

    Nevertheless, I seem to spot people walking their dogs at all hours of the day and night, whatever the weather, a plastic bottle of water in one hand ( to wash off or dilute the pee ), the leash in the other, the waste-bags at their waist belt.

    But yes, you're still right: that isn't the same emotional involvement, not really, it's rather going deep into a stubborn enslavement.

    The problem, in my opinion, is that people who want to be parents to a pet rather than to a child, suffer from an impairment to love.

    They just need unconditional love, the kind which only a pet can guarantee to them, whether you return it to them or not, according to your whims and the engagement level you choose to put in.

    Love among humans, I'm afraid, is a completely different kind: to be mutual, it needs constant involvement from both sides, sacrifice, the ability to abstract completely from yourself to devote entirely to others... not just the time it takes to walk the dog.

    It's a huge task, I'm aware: that's why you can feel much more comfortable buying your own furry, reassuringly undemanding, relievingly tail-wagging one.
  • VictorJoséVictorJosé Posts: 54 ✭✭
    Thanks, @Teach for your attention and dedication with us!
  • filauziofilauzio Genoa ( Italy )Posts: 2,027 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Thank you so much @Teach, it was high time I took an humility bath and hit back the books, I enjoyed it !
    glad to stop strict diet, splashed in belly flop? Don't care you're not light, here on English hop !
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